Real Talk the Movement: From the Heart of a Man AfterMath LA

Real Talk the Movement: From the Heart of a Man AfterMath LA: Real Talk the Movement LA this past Friday, April 27th, tucked away in the Penthouse downtown Los Angeles from the hustle and bustle of "p...

From the Heart of a Man AfterMath LA

Real Talk the Movement LA this past Friday, April 27th, tucked away in the Penthouse downtown Los Angeles from the hustle and bustle of "party life" where all walks of life dwell, went on a flow that I myself did not know would take; considering I had all my ducks in the row, cue cards and all--much different from that of Inland Empire the Friday Night before at the Hourglass Art and Wine Gallery.  In the IE with Coach Mac Wells, Actor Aric White and Psychologist, Dr. Jeshana Avent Johnson, what stuck out the most for me was this "A man may love spending time with you and love the way you make him feel, but may not necessarily be In Love with You; there is a difference. We were taught so much more.

This night in LA, instead of me starting with "what makes a man give his heart to a woman", I went with "with so many men not necessarily having great role models being raised in single family homes by females ONLY, is it an asset to understanding a woman or a liability when it comes to knowing how to truly love a woman?" 

Our panelists made up of Photographer Tshombe Tshanti, Coach Cornell Ward, Comedian TreLuv as well as Relationship Coach/Expert Ryeal Simms had different responses but ended up in the same arena.  The general consensus was both, an asset and liability.  Our generation can see the sensitive side to a woman and treat her with care which is an asset, but then the liability is....massive manipulation as pointed out by a Washington D.C. gentleman who graced us this Real Talk the Movement; the male gender being able to take the pure essence of a woman and either treasure it or selfishly use it.  We came to the realization that a Man is the protector of his household and will not allow anything or anyone to ruin or taint what he has.  A man's heart holds his thinking, his will, his character.  As a man thinketh, so is he.... So who is this Man (not boy) we speak of?  He is the leader, one who is able to take charge of a situation, puts his family first, treasures his woman and children, will confront a challenge and even though may slip, will continue to fight until that thing is conquered. A man's heart will be given to a woman that he can trust, who makes him feel comfortable, allows him to be honest and open, not judge him, is compatible with, a woman who is confident, secure in who she is, is a team player, and willing to know him as a man and friend. 

So what do we do?  We as women allow our men to go through their own process while we enjoy our very own meantime, fun time, girl time, whatever time you feel like you want to ENJOY!  We pray for them, support them, encourage them as well as listen to them.   Though we deal with much, they do too but on a level that only we can imagine.  This is OUR community and within Our Community, We will stand tall together!  Give anything time and TIME will speak for itself....you simply watch and see!

Blog written by LaTonya Washington

From The Heart of a Man: Can I Love You

From The Heart of a Man: Can I Love You: Since the beginning of time, we long for love, to be loved and to be a part of loving families.  Both men and women seek love and as society...

Can I Love You

Since the beginning of time, we long for love, to be loved and to be a part of loving families.  Both men and women seek love and as society consistently evolves, we have to ask ourselves, has it changed the way we seek after it?  Do we really know what the heart wants or for that matter, do we know our own heart?  We question ourselves time and time again when it comes to matters of love, people, professional career choices, schools, loved ones and the cycle never ends.  We sometimes doubt our own selves in choices that we make, waivering back and forth, right from wrong.

A man's heart is where lies his will, his emotions and/or feelings, one's conscience, his treasure.  In our younger years, we seem to be so free and so open, willing to share love in its pureness, not looking to gain but to give.  But as we age comes the experiences, the issues, the baggage, the hurt, the pain, the change in emotions and the way we treasure self and others.  Where did this come from?  How did we get to this place?  It comes from us not taking time out to know self, jumping from one relationship to another and not learning the lesson.  For this reason, we tend to not give our hearts so readily or freely, yet we long for the same love since the beginning.   

LaTonya Washington, Founder of Real  Talk the Movement

What do we do now?  We begin to release the pain, seek help, take time to know self, know what we want, become accountable to someone.  We begin to develop solid friendships before diving into sex.  We begin to develop patience, faith, love for self and wisdom.  Read a good self help book, go to a therapist, talk to friends, not just any friend, but a wise friend and you can always be a part of Real Talk the Movement!  It is our endeavor that we change the way we think negatively about one another, about self, to enhance the love that dwells within, to wash away the pride, the guilt, the shame and iniquity.  To change a community that once was deprived to now reaping the harvest of their own hands.  This nation is in need of love and here is our chance to give back something that was given to us at the beginning of time.....LOVE!

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This blog written by LaTonya Washington