What Makes You Attractive

In my years of discussion with young ladies as well as the more mature ladies, the question would always arise, what are the things that are attractive to you when it comes to the opposite sex?  Many of the younger ladies would say, give me a man with a little bit of roughness or a "rough neck."  In their mind, the rough neck is one who makes them feel  protected and you never knew what to expect.

In my discussion with men, many seem to like a lady with a bit of roughness to her too.  You would hear, "give me a woman who can act like a lady in public but a "hoe" in the bedroom.  Hey, don't hurt the messenger, this is simply what they've told me in some Real Talk discussion.  Heads up ladies, men tend to marry the "good girl," a combination of angel with a little bit of devil.  So let's focus in on THAT GIRL!  Who is she:  She is the following:

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• Lively!  She is simply fun, full of life, able to make one open up and is a challenge.  She is not one who walks around like a little nun. 
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• Confident/Attractive:  Ladies, men are visual and love attractive women but they look for a woman who is confident and believe they are beautiful.  
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• Attentive:  Men love women who show them attention, acknowledgement and adoration. So ladies, pay attention to the man you are dating, take notes.
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• Respectful:  That is key, no one wants to be disrespected and this is big for men.
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• Attainable:  There is a way of being attainable and not simply loose.  Have fun, show your true self, be inviting and allow yourself to be free enough to communicate.  
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• Challenging:  Anything worthwhile is worth chasing.  Do what you do, enjoying your life, your interests and activities.  You don't always have to be available because if you are, you no longer become challenging.  The man should never be your one and only thing in life.  So, Get a Life!

At the end of the day, be who you are and what is for you will come to you if you are open to it.  No one wants to be with someone who they have to pretend to be with.   But guess what, if you have a life, you are GREAT!  Someone's always watching.

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Blog Written by Founder of Real Talk the Movement, LaTonya Washington