From the Heart of a Man AfterMath LA

Real Talk the Movement LA this past Friday, April 27th, tucked away in the Penthouse downtown Los Angeles from the hustle and bustle of "party life" where all walks of life dwell, went on a flow that I myself did not know would take; considering I had all my ducks in the row, cue cards and all--much different from that of Inland Empire the Friday Night before at the Hourglass Art and Wine Gallery.  In the IE with Coach Mac Wells, Actor Aric White and Psychologist, Dr. Jeshana Avent Johnson, what stuck out the most for me was this "A man may love spending time with you and love the way you make him feel, but may not necessarily be In Love with You; there is a difference. We were taught so much more.

This night in LA, instead of me starting with "what makes a man give his heart to a woman", I went with "with so many men not necessarily having great role models being raised in single family homes by females ONLY, is it an asset to understanding a woman or a liability when it comes to knowing how to truly love a woman?" 

Our panelists made up of Photographer Tshombe Tshanti, Coach Cornell Ward, Comedian TreLuv as well as Relationship Coach/Expert Ryeal Simms had different responses but ended up in the same arena.  The general consensus was both, an asset and liability.  Our generation can see the sensitive side to a woman and treat her with care which is an asset, but then the liability is....massive manipulation as pointed out by a Washington D.C. gentleman who graced us this Real Talk the Movement; the male gender being able to take the pure essence of a woman and either treasure it or selfishly use it.  We came to the realization that a Man is the protector of his household and will not allow anything or anyone to ruin or taint what he has.  A man's heart holds his thinking, his will, his character.  As a man thinketh, so is he.... So who is this Man (not boy) we speak of?  He is the leader, one who is able to take charge of a situation, puts his family first, treasures his woman and children, will confront a challenge and even though may slip, will continue to fight until that thing is conquered. A man's heart will be given to a woman that he can trust, who makes him feel comfortable, allows him to be honest and open, not judge him, is compatible with, a woman who is confident, secure in who she is, is a team player, and willing to know him as a man and friend. 

So what do we do?  We as women allow our men to go through their own process while we enjoy our very own meantime, fun time, girl time, whatever time you feel like you want to ENJOY!  We pray for them, support them, encourage them as well as listen to them.   Though we deal with much, they do too but on a level that only we can imagine.  This is OUR community and within Our Community, We will stand tall together!  Give anything time and TIME will speak for itself....you simply watch and see!

Blog written by LaTonya Washington