Don't Wanna Be a Playa' No More......

In life and relationship, you will come across all types of people from those who possess integrity, your procrastinators, those trying to find their purpose, those who know their purpose, and those who we call "the game players."  As you go through your journey of enlightenment, develop wisdom and discernment so you are able to determine the type of people you allow in. 

Today, we are going to deal with what we call "the game player" and if this is you, remember you are playing with the heart of another.  Signs of a game player:  1.  One who looks to gain through manipulation of another.  2.  One who is evasive in conversation and when asked a particular question, avoids answering.  3.  One who pushes another's self-esteem to the breaking point.  4.  One who makes false accusations to turn the scent another direction and try to make you feel something is wrong with you. 

In your journey of seeking healthy relationships, I cannot stress to you enough the need to have high self-esteem for self.  With that, there are simply certain things that you will automatically recognize and give no folly to.  No one wants their heart to be played with.  Unfortunately, as time evades, there are people who have played or eluded true/real relationships so often, that they continue in a state of conscious and/or unconscious dysfunction.   Understand that you deserve the best and in order to get the best, Be the Best!  Why on earth would you subject yourself to another who would test your ethics and standards as a human being? - that's a self-esteem issue.  Why play silly games based on rules that technically have no rules?  - any standards here?

When you meet people of interest, make friends first and only consider dating after they have proven to be respectful and worthy of you.  In my experience, I've had the highs and lows of relationship and it wasn't until I came to myself, recognized my very own issues, faced them, had my own pitty party for a moment, talked to people, got back up, got off the dating scene for a moment to ready myself, made myself accountable to people of wisdom that I began to see the true maturity.  You see, many many years ago, I was a game player so I recognize the signs and in my game playing, I got played on a few occasions.  Do recognize what you put out, will come back to you.  

If you are a game player and you want to stop, tell yourself, I don't want to be a playa no more and take steps to stop by being honest with self and others.   If you are not a game player and don't want to be played,  know the signs and don't allow yourself to GET played.  But let me reinforce, don't walk around mis-trusting everyone you meet either, that's also an inward issue that you need to deal with.  Simply know the signs and ask for wisdom. 

          Real Talk the Movement panelist, James Sutton, Commentator Eric Gooden of CEO TV
                                   

 This Blog written by Founder of Real Talk the Movement
LaTonya Washington