Sex, Love & Celibacy....

Eat the Apple (Photo by Will Sterling during our Alter Ego Photo Shoot)

Is it possible to have peace of mind and be in a relationship without avoiding sex, love or marriage? Have you ever wondered if things would have been different with that possible true mate if you waited before giving up the "cookies?"  Does it really matter in the mind of a man if a woman becomes physically intimate with him prior to the "relationship?"  As a woman, how do you view a man who comes at you physically before really getting to know you?

Just the other day, I had a great conversation with a close friend and we talked about celibacy.  He asked, what is the definition of it?  I said it is to abstain from sex.  He then asked, does that mean to abstain from intercourse with another person or abstain from any type of sexual pleasure?"  At that point, he made me put my thinking cap on.  Though I have my personal views on sex, love & celibacy, I'm always curious about what other people say about it.  People have different definitions of celibacy, just like fasting.  Some people go on a water fast, some a TV fast, no sweet fast, etc.  Do people view celibacy the same way?  Boy I can't wait for the next Real Talk the Movement!
It takes immense self-discipline to abstain from anything.  No one is immune. So how can the ordinary person cultivate peace of mind, serenity, psychological and emotional stability while at the same time engaging in a relationship that is full of passion and chemistry? 

This thing called Love and Relationship entails many attributes.  It takes those persons involved to be honest, upfront and state how they feel about certain things as it relates to sex, celibacy, family, finances, and more if they look for their relationship to proceed. 

Do know, never feel you have to have sex with someone to get them to fall in love with you...it does not work.  Love is a many splendid things but there is much more to it than just sexual intimacy BUT it does require intimacy.  If you choose to be celibate, be okay with it.  If you choose to have a sexual relationship, be okay with it.  You simply need to know what you want to do that no form of manipulation was involved.  Sex, Love & Celibacy.....join in on the conversation!

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